Never dreamed how hard it would be to buy a headstone..

Posts from Lily's Facebook page on Saturday, December 1st (Never Forget Lily Grace page): 

This is dedicated to everyone that has lost a baby.. All babies- whether we lost them in the first, second, or third trimester... Whether they were born sleeping.. Whether they lived a few hours.. 1,2,3,4 days.. 18 days.. months.. Years.. We miss you sweet children ♥

Thought of the day.. I would have never dreamed how hard it would be to pick a headstone which I ordered one month ago. 

The details: what color stone (so many shades to choose from and they can vary slightly), what words do you want on it, what pictures (like flowers), what picture of your child (do you want a picture, do you want it etched or ceramic, what size picture, etc), do you want the s

tone flat/ upright/ flat but slightly slanted, do you want the sides/ top smooth & shined or the bumpy texture, how do you want the font, how big do you want it, do you want a vase (where, what kind, what color, how many, etc).. On & on..

You get that ordered and then here comes the holidays. If the cemetery lets you decorate then how do you decorate.. It's a lot of pressure to get the perfect decorations for your child that's an angel. You just want it to be perfect.. not for anyone really except your child. You want it to be perfect and a perfect way to honor your child. I never knew this before...

Then on the holidays you want to honor them but how.. the things that we all don't realize people go through until we have to go through it ourselves. I'm sure this is not just for grieving parents.. just wanted to give everyone something to think about. Night Facebook..